Well, I've come to the conclusion that I'm definitely using the Zinc additive, and a relatively generic oil (one the guy at NAPA said he knows other people have broken engines in with).
I'm sure that the guys at the shop used the proper lube when assembling the engine, they were VERY good respecting the fact that I cared about this engine, and the amount of money I put into it. They mentioned that they had thrown in a couple hours for free because they realized how costly it had been. True or no, it wouldn't surprise me, they did a LOT of research at very least, most likely for free, they were.
The landlord/tranny mechanic....I got my oil, additives, spark plugs and oil filter. A couple more parts yet to come in and it'll be good to go....I'm going to talk to him, perhaps print out this thread and take it to him. I want to insist that he primes the motor, and that I am THERE when it starts for the first time, and I will thoroughly explain the break-in to him. Here's hoping though that it starts the first try!!! It could turn out to be quite the ordeal.
He pulled the car out, since we were waiting for parts and he had other work to do (fix his plow so we could use the driveway!). I honestly think he expects to just throw the absolute minimum parts on to get it running and then pull it into his shop to finish the work. He isn't going to be pleased when I correct this idea of his, but hey, he is getting "paid" for this. (he is actually getting my Grand Am in return for it....I could sell it for about $2500 if I wanted to take the time)
Thanks for the info everybody, I'll probably read this thread a dozen more times before break-in day!